Christopher Street Day - Personal Opinion

Today on the Queer Blog:

Background on the article CSD & Scene from Frauenbarth.de.

I’d really love to go to a party or an event again. On one hand, at least. On the other, our last outings left us pretty disappointed — and right now we feel a little lost in this big, colorful world we once loved so much.

Below, I’m sharing an excerpt from my personal blog Frauenbarth and will reflect on some parts in more detail.

Frauenbarth – Christopher Street Day & Scene

[...] << read the full article in German

Last year, we were genuinely excited about the very first Christopher Street Day CSD (Pride) in our small town — but honestly, we were a bit shocked.

There were several reasons for that. Maybe because after so many years in an environment where inner freedom could never really be expressed outwardly, we expected something different — like a true scene. And not just oversized kids waving flags.

As a child and teenager, I wished for more openness and education about the queer community — to better understand myself.

But what we’ve found over the past few years has, sadly, never really felt like a community. It often feels like a collection of self-presentations that suffocate the intended scene under the shadow of their own flags.

Harsh words? Maybe. But I see it like I do with feminism:When everyone is “traumatized,” when all are #MeToo, and no one steps aside anymore because “that’s what men can do,” it casts a shadow over everyone, fuels hatred, and deepens division.

That’s why today, we’re stuck debating rainbows and circus acts that have absolutely no place in politics — and honestly, we’ve got bigger global issues than fighting over a piece of fabric.

What gets forgotten are the people — of all ages, genders, backgrounds, and walks of life — for whom this (yes, political) event was originally intended. I doubt that anyone back then had the rainbow flag in mind as the core idea.

My Inner Conflict

Personally, that’s where my inner conflict lies.I wish for a bit more normality — for everyone.In my world, that would simply mean: we can treat each other normally, disagree sometimes, and still get along — without constantly forcing, denying, or overcorrecting each other.Maybe that’s always been a bit of a utopia.

To go through all the things I find critical (language, symbols, politics, fear, hate, drama, theatre, circus, the world, …) would probably turn this into another book series — so instead, I just want to share a glimpse of how I’ve experienced things in recent years.

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This project is meant for people who’ve felt like I once did —

those who struggled with their own inclinations, wishes, and needs, and ended up in tricky situations because the search for oneself can lead down countless wrong paths.

I honestly underestimated how much has changed in the past few years.

When I was younger, I had to research everything:

What exists? What’s considered physiological or pathological?What’s wrong with me — or maybe, nothing at all?Where are others right, and when are my emotions just running wild (as they often do — especially in puberty)?

And how do other people deal with that?

Back then, the number of accessible sources was very limited.So I had plenty of space for reflection, nuanced opinions, personal blogs, documentaries, and free academic articles.

And suddenly, I’m living in a time where self-proclaimed “FinSubs” are topping minors on Snapchat — from not even below.

Mistakes by parents?Mistakes by the scene?Mistakes of the internet?Politics?Time itself?

Maybe. Maybe it’s all of them combined.But it’s probably not the gay couple next door.And it’s probably not the bisexual woman down the street or the trans person you might not even realize is trans.

So what’s my problem, really?

I want what everyone keeps preaching:

an open society that supports each other instead of constantly fighting.

I once truly believed humanity had grown beyond the Middle Ages — and yet, I still catch myself laughing at sharp-tongued comments or sharing things that add to the outrage.Sometimes, I’m part of the problem too — a flag-waving angry person for a moment.

Yes, I get angry at life sometimes. We all do.And yes, I’d like a bit more recognition for what I do — but everyone gets overlooked at times.

I could spend weeks wondering whether my life turned out the way it did because I was born female (luckily, I’m at peace with my biological sex — I’d probably do just fine as a man too; that’s what “nonbinary” means to me: accepting both without conflict) — or because I’m not straight.But I’d never find an answer. I’d just keep finding new reasons.

I could just as well blame my blue eyes.Or my often imperfect skin.Or my constant struggle with speaking at the right volume.Or my math mistakes, because my brain likes to take detours that are absolutely unnecessary.

Conclusion:If I want to feel discriminated against, I’ll always find a reason to.

And yes, as a white, middle-class woman, I know I’m privileged.That’s exactly why I can also recognize that some people use the idea of discrimination as a platform to fill their own emptiness — and in doing so, they harm everyone: queers, allies, and straight folks alike.

[...] << read the full article in German

Inclinations, Wishes & Needs

Inclination: a recurring inner orientation – for example, toward people of a certain gender or specific forms of relationships.Wish: something you desire or long for – it can change or come in phases.Need: a fundamental feeling or state essential to your well-being – like closeness, safety, freedom, or clarity.

Why Write About Queerness and LGBTQIA+ Topics?

It’s not always easy to tell the difference between what we need, what we want, and what we simply feel drawn to.

Inclinations are often deep-seated – for instance, attraction to a particular gender or relationship type.Wishes, on the other hand, are flexible and often depend on our emotional state or life phase.Needs are the foundation: closeness, safety, freedom, clarity.

Without them, we quickly lose ourselves.

When it comes to identity, sexuality, or relationships, many people stumble:

What’s normal?

What’s real?

And what’s just confusion?

It’s perfectly okay not to have quick answers.

Asexual, pansexual, nonbinary, trans*, queer – the variety is vast.

And everyone has the right to find themselves within it, in their own way, in their own time.

The journey to self-discovery often begins the moment you stop bending yourself to fit others.

So: you don’t have to label yourself – but you can.You don’t have to explain yourself – but you may explore who you are.And if you feel lost – maybe you’re just beginning to find your real path.

CSD & Scene – What I Personally Find Difficult

Here I’d like to dive a bit deeper into what exactly troubles me – and maybe you’ve felt the same.

If your experience is different, I’d love to hear your thoughts and tips.

1. Alienation from the “Scene” instead of belonging

You were excited for Pride – and left disappointed.Not because of the cause, but because of the lack of depth:Instead of solidarity and community, you found mostly self-promotion and a kind of colorful “circus” where the original message – protection, visibility, connection – got lost.

You long for a scene that unites instead of dividing, that expresses rather than performs.

2. Overpoliticization & Symbol Misuse

You feel that many discussions about flags, language, and self-presentation are overshadowed by drama, outrage, and misused symbols – especially in political spaces where other, more pressing issues should take priority.What’s missing, for you, is genuine reflection on the people behind the terms – not just their performance.

3. Critique of Generalized Victimhood & Identity Labeling

You notice that some portray themselves as “victims,” blurring the line between reality, trauma, and accountability.You question whether every story needs to be dramatized – and whether this constant overexposure might dilute real discrimination and exhaust the community.

4. Commercialization & Overstimulation

You see how complex topics like sexuality and identity are increasingly monetized – often through provocative or sexualized content on social media and platforms like OnlyFans, which can confuse or mislead young people rather than empower them.You miss real education and reliable resources, especially for those still finding their way.

5. The Wish for Normality – Not Conformity

You wish for an open, respectful society – not one where everyone has to think the same way or act “correctly.”You want space for differences – without it turning into conflict.For you, normality means living together with appreciation and respect, not pressure to conform.

What Nonbinary Means to Me (and why that’s just one part of it)

At some point, I realized: my biological sex isn’t the core of who I am.I could have lived as a man just as well.I don’t feel at odds with my body, but I’m also not defined by it.That’s my personal sense of nonbinary – existing between expectations, free from the need to pick a side.

But nonbinary isn’t one single thing. It’s a spectrum.For some, it’s a deep inner conflict with their body.For others, a political stance.For many, a blend – or something else entirely.That’s the key: nonbinary isn’t a single identity, but many.Not a fixed label, but a space of possibility.

I’m sharing my story not to generalize, but to give you a glimpse into my experience – in case you’re on your own journey too.And to remind you: you’re allowed to find your place in the spectrum, and it’s okay if it changes.

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